In “Selfie” Defense


Selfies: selfish or self-love? If you are remotely in touch with pop culture, you have heard of, seen and maybe even snapped a few “selfies.”  With the advent of smart phones with front cameras, selfie sticks, etc., selfies are very much a part of our daily lives.

I recently read an article which was very harsh of people who indulge in taking “selfies”. The writer was labeling them as being narcissistic, egotistical and possibly even having mental disorders. This, of course, was extremely interesting to me. I admittedly take my fair share of selfies, as do many of my friends and even my kids. As a perpetual student of personal development and self-examination, I began to think about this phenomenon as it applies to me. Why do I take selfies? Hmmm. Well, first and foremost, it’s a lot of fun! I happen to love myself, not in a conceited or narcissistic way. But I love WHO I am, and I firmly believe that outer beauty radiates from within. I love the art of self-expression.

For me, seeing my reflection is seeing the miracle that I am. I am and YOU are a creation of God. What a wonderful way to admire the individuality of your divine nature. Furthermore, I look forward to seeing beautiful, smiling faces every day when I scroll through my social media newsfeeds. I see God in those faces; I see self-love, happiness, creativity, diversity, beauty, joy, peace, and many other amazing attributes!

I find it intriguing that one could perceive narcissism and perhaps mental dysfunction from the posting of self -portraits. Should we assume the opposite end of the spectrum….low self-esteem, lack of confidence, and perhaps mental dysfunction of those who hide if a camera approaches them? To me, this is clearly a form of stereotyping people – which I’m sure we all want to avoid. There is no right, and there is no wrong. There are just people who like selfies, and people who don’t. And that’s OKAY!

When you love and embrace yourself, when you recognize the greatness within, when you allow people to express themselves without passing judgment, when you choose to see good in people, think good about people, love people without conditions, then you may see selfies differently. You may even snap a few of your own and like what you see. Always remember that your perception of others is a reflection of YOU! What you observe in others, good or bad, is present in you. As for me, I’m going to keep being unapologetically me, selfies included! And to all of you, I encourage you to do the same! I LOVE seeing your beautiful , smiling, silly, and even “duck lip” faces, so keep them coming. Cheers to seeing the good in life!

Kristy Kristy Arantes lives in Atlanta, Georgia, and is a married mom with five beautiful daughters. She is a small business owner with a passion for mentoring others to realize their inherent greatness. She is also a writer, freelance model, classical pianst, vocalist and composer. She is currently studying at Spiritual Living Center of Atlanta and plans to pursue the path to practitioner. Her hobbies include traveling, reading, and volunteering for homeless shelters. She plans to pursue a future in humanitarian aid around the world.

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